Couple of warning signs there I reckon DBEE.
I hear you DKD - loud and clear. And the whole reason I've joined the forum is to get advice and learn, so your input is greatly appreciated.
I don't want to the occasional treat to turn into a tidal wave either - I haven't been swamped by that tidal wave in well over a year now, and I don't really want to feel as though I'm drowning again.
I'm still figuring this out as I go - and can only really go on trial and error.
I don't want to get into a cycle of famine and then feast, if you know what I mean? In the early days of this journey, I found the cheat meal too much to handle, it was as if all bets were off, and I found myself undoing a whole week's worth of work in one foul swoop. My definition of a "meal" at that point...entree, main, dessert, wine, bread...you get the idea.
I found it easier (emotionally) to schedule small treats throughout the week. For example 35g Lindt Dark Chocolate each Wednesday (177 cals). Wed is a half day at work followed by a heavy session with my PT. Always looked forward to having my Lindt in front of Spicks and Specks each Wed night. And then Sunday lunch at Mums - (not what it used to be, promise!) we would finish with a Skinny Cow icecream treat (usually 100 - 150 cals).
You make a valid point, and have given me food for thought (oh no she didn't - oh yes she did). I have taken the foot off the pedal diet wise, and my progress has stalled. I know what I have to do - go back to weighing, measuring, and writing down my food and excercise.
But (and apologies if I'm highjacking this thread) - how / when do we maintain? For obvious reasons weight loss must stop at some point. Then what? I have heard that the recidivism rate for the morbidly obese is worse than that of alcoholics. If you know of anyone on this forum who has successfully undergone a transformation (fat to fit, or skinny to built, not picky) please point me towards their diary, or some threads. I want to know how to find balance when I get to my goal weight. I've been focused on hitting a certain number for such a long time, and I'm almost there .. but it's like I'm tripping myself up???
I don't know if I'm doing a very good job of describing myself...going for a walk to clear my head.