Hey everyone, My husband and I have been discussing whether I should add weights [...] He, however believes I should just stick to cardio (bike/rower and tready) or I will look like a bodybuilder.
It takes a long time to build muscle, even if you desperately want to. As an example, one of my clients Dave put on 6kg in 8 weeks. However, he had a big breakfast of oats and milk and honey, and every day and during every workout a power drink of 1lt milk + 3 eggs + 100g milk powder. Thus in every week he was consuming
extra,
- 750g bag oats
- jar honey
- 10lt milk
- tray (30) eggs
- 1kg milk powder
and when his bodyweight stalled one week, he started eating 450g steaks for dinner.
Are you going to eat like that? If not, you will
not add 6kg of lean mass in 8 weeks.
And anyway he began underweight, scrawny people put on surprising amounts of muscle once they start eating properly.
So whatever increases in strength and muscle you do want to happen will take time. At some point you may decide "that's enough." You won't simply wake up one day as Arnold Squashenegger, it'll be gradual. You can decide as you go along what you like.
It appears that your husband is not a coach or trainer, nor has he experience in lifting - or he would know this stuff - so he should stick to speaking on whatever his profession actually is. If he feels threatened by the idea of his wife being stronger than he is, he should get stronger himself. He should not expect you to be weak simply because he's lazy. Women should not be held back because of their husbands' issues, this is 2011 not 1911.
I recommend you read
this article on women underestimating themselves. And the
http://gubernatrix.co.uk website is in general very useful and inspirational. It's a blog about strength written by a woman. She's pictured below on the right. She's coaching the men.