NPR said:
I've had clients complain, and not want to be trained by me, they complain its too hard, they are usually the clients who stop coming altogether.
Nick, I hope I will also have a tolerant boss who does not get upset with me if my training style drives clients away. Yes, the client's laziness or stubbornness is
actually the cause of their quitting, but many gym managers won't view it that way. Most will just sack you. And then you can't give anyone workouts, perfect or not.
I think between pandering and dictating there is a middle ground. A lot of discussions like this are really poisoned by this rush to extremes. For example,
"I'm against capital punishment."
"What? So we should just let them all go?!"
"I'm in favour of capital punishment."
"What? So we should execute people for jaywalking?!"
It's not
either doing whatever the client happens to feel like today
or telling them "my way or the highway." There's a middle ground. Let's think about that for a bit.
I gave some examples earlier, such as a woman in her 30s who wanted to "lose weight, tone tummy hips and thighs", yes barbell squats and deadlifts would be best for her, but she might simply walk out if I insisted she do them. I offer them, demonstrate them, ask her to try them for a bit, and maybe she does them, great! - but quite often, she won't. So after her refusal and many failed attempts to persuade, I give her dumbell lunges and dumbell squats and full range of motion leg presses, and she likes these and is happy to do them; it's not a
perfect workout, but it's a workout she'll
stick to. She won't get the best possible results, but she'll get more results than if she walked out and didn't come back.
The best workout is the one the person sticks to. That gets them more results than the perfect workout they walk away from.
There are three basic approaches to being a trainer, and three possible results:
- Nick/Markos - achieve a lot with a few clients
- Mainstream gyms - achieve almost nothing with a zillion clients
- Kyle's current philosophy (subject to change as experience grows) - achieve a bit with a lot of clients
As
reported recently, even small improvements in people's fitness greatly improves longevity. And we know that even small improvements in strength, fitness, flexibility and body composition can greatly improve a person's quality of life.
Spend some time talking to people at a mainstream gym. Once you've stopped laughing at their pathetic lifts or stumping along on treadmills, listen to what they
say about their training and its results. Lots are wasting time, but many people can tell you of great improvements in their lives.
There's one woman at my gym who does cardio and classes every day, never any weights to speak of - but she's slimmed down from 120kg to 90kg or so. Over the last year or two, she's had a vast improvement in her health, her future health prospects, her energy levels, her self-esteem and overall quality of life. A
vast improvement. Yet - no weights?! - she's training
wrong, how is it possible?!
Yes, a
better workout would give her
even better results. But the
imperfect one has given her results that have improved her quality of life, because she stuck to it. Would she have stuck to the perfect workout? I don't know. You and Markos are both telling me that lots of people don't, they walk away.
The other thing is that working out isn't something we do for six months and then we're all set and never need do anything physical again. It's a lifestyle choice, a thing of years and years. The woman we start with dumbell lunges today may go on to do double bodyweight squats five years from now. If we'd insisted on the squats today and she'd walked out then maybe in five years she's doing nothing more physical than flicking the tv remote.
You would rather have people doing
nothing than doing the
imperfect thing. I would rather have people doing
something than doing
nothing.
Neither approach is wrong. You can make a big difference to a few people's lives, or a small difference to many. Both are good things to do. Which you prefer depends on your personality.
As a trainer, I expect to be more active than most (sitting in their office playing Solitaire on the computer, or phoning up their mates) in making sure that
something people are doing is the
best something they are willing and able to do at that time. And I'll keep an eye on them to see if we can ramp it up a bit later on when they're ready.