My gym is a pretty friendly and social place.
Like many people, I generally go there at the same time on the same days and have made a few new friends - both male and female. A couple of the girls and I are now really good friends. There are also a couple of guys that I'm friends with, one in particular, but the others I just say hi and occasionally have a quick chat. This guy normally works out near me and we have longer slightly more personal conversations, more in line with what the girls and I do.
At first I was a little cautious (I've had a couple of guys try and crack onto me in the past) - I am extremely happily married with a wonderful husband. That said I am a pretty down to earth and social person and don't want to assume for a minute that every guy in the gym that is nice enough to stop for a chat is trying to crack on to me, because that is simply not the case! And I like talking to people and making new friends.
Anyway, this guy asked me if I was married a couple of weeks ago and I said yes. He then said he hoped I wouldn't think he was being too personal but was trying to come to terms with the whole marriage thing and asked if I was honestly happy in my relationship, did I think of DH during the day, were they happy thoughts, how long had I been married etc etc. I was slightly in shock but answered honestly to all of his questions with yes, yes and yes. I said that DH & I get on very well and love spending time together. I didn't ask too many questions about his separation though explained a few things about my first marriage which ended in divorce and about how different and happy my second marriage is and to keep being positive about the future that many married people are in fact happy.
He apologised again for asking what were such personal questions and I said that was fine I didn't care - cause I really didn't.
We chat as per normal the next few times we were at the gym together and he mentions some singer he likes. This morning he brings the CD in and lends it to me.
Now this is all cool but I'm feeling a teeny bit funny about the whole thing. If it were in the reverse, I don't know what I would think if some random girl at the gym lent my DH a CD! That said, I would lend any of the girls at the gym a CD or vice versa so why should it be any different. But it just feels different. Am I reading too much into it? The CD has songs including "Stay with me", "Leave your Lover", "I've told you now", "Lay me down" and "reminds me of you" on it.
I am comforted by the fact that I been open about my situation and how much I love my husband and so I have nothing to hide or cannot be misconstrued as leading him on.
I just wondered what others thought of the above (guys opinions welcomed!). Would you think he was just being friendly/in need of a friend or is there more to it?
Naturally, I'm not planning on going on a date with him should he ask but I also hope he's not some weirdo stalker either!
Like many people, I generally go there at the same time on the same days and have made a few new friends - both male and female. A couple of the girls and I are now really good friends. There are also a couple of guys that I'm friends with, one in particular, but the others I just say hi and occasionally have a quick chat. This guy normally works out near me and we have longer slightly more personal conversations, more in line with what the girls and I do.
At first I was a little cautious (I've had a couple of guys try and crack onto me in the past) - I am extremely happily married with a wonderful husband. That said I am a pretty down to earth and social person and don't want to assume for a minute that every guy in the gym that is nice enough to stop for a chat is trying to crack on to me, because that is simply not the case! And I like talking to people and making new friends.
Anyway, this guy asked me if I was married a couple of weeks ago and I said yes. He then said he hoped I wouldn't think he was being too personal but was trying to come to terms with the whole marriage thing and asked if I was honestly happy in my relationship, did I think of DH during the day, were they happy thoughts, how long had I been married etc etc. I was slightly in shock but answered honestly to all of his questions with yes, yes and yes. I said that DH & I get on very well and love spending time together. I didn't ask too many questions about his separation though explained a few things about my first marriage which ended in divorce and about how different and happy my second marriage is and to keep being positive about the future that many married people are in fact happy.
He apologised again for asking what were such personal questions and I said that was fine I didn't care - cause I really didn't.
We chat as per normal the next few times we were at the gym together and he mentions some singer he likes. This morning he brings the CD in and lends it to me.
Now this is all cool but I'm feeling a teeny bit funny about the whole thing. If it were in the reverse, I don't know what I would think if some random girl at the gym lent my DH a CD! That said, I would lend any of the girls at the gym a CD or vice versa so why should it be any different. But it just feels different. Am I reading too much into it? The CD has songs including "Stay with me", "Leave your Lover", "I've told you now", "Lay me down" and "reminds me of you" on it.
I am comforted by the fact that I been open about my situation and how much I love my husband and so I have nothing to hide or cannot be misconstrued as leading him on.
I just wondered what others thought of the above (guys opinions welcomed!). Would you think he was just being friendly/in need of a friend or is there more to it?
Naturally, I'm not planning on going on a date with him should he ask but I also hope he's not some weirdo stalker either!
