Hi everyone, one month later I thought I'd post an update.
I've been doing the 5X5 program - had to spend a lot of time and internet videos on proper form, especially for squats and neutral wrists. I've got a good routine going now and I don't think I've ever squatted so often or so much weight. One thing I had to focus on early is learning how to fail on the squat so that I was not afraid of pushing myself - I train alone in the garage so can't rely on having folk around to help me. I'm still not comfortable with the safety aspects of bench pressing on my own but I have practised unloading the bars (which do not have clamps on them) and it seems to go OK.
Overall going pretty well, I have another 4 weeks I can focus on it until I go away for xmas for 3 weeks. I'll try and find a gym where we are going and hit the new year running.
thanks everyone...will keep the updates coming.