You are right, my only issue I had was thinking I was robbed of my right to grow up with both my parents, an issue I carried up until about 15 years ago, death is a terrible thing for a kid to try to cope with.
right now my philosophy is just be yourself, surround yourself with people that like you, I love what's left of my siblings and mother but it doesn't necessarily mean I like them, and I'm comfortable with that, as you get older you just get comfortable in your own skin, do things right and show integrity when you're young.