This is precisely what he says to me lol
No he's not cheating on anyone. I guess the question, for him, is a moral one then isn't it?
The decision to cheat, is her's and her's alone and I quite agree with him, that the onus is not on him.
I guess he has 3 choices,
a) like Graeme said, to demand that she's free and available before he continues with anything.
b) go with what he wants, see her and.....well do whatever they're going to do
or c) call it quits entirely
I spoke to him this evening, he definitely won't consider the ultimatum, because they haven't even met yet, he doesn't feel it's appropriate.
He's not going anywhere, nor is he going to forget about her.
So I guess, in summary, he will continue with his plans, to see her and meet her...and see what happens.
I suppose, in any case, the decision of how to move forward, will be up to her, after she's met him in the flesh?
Such an odd thing...
thanks gents