Maybe after many years with the same person, perspective changes?
I don't know.
I see what Relevant is saying though.
And you're right Pete, when you're in love and the relationship is good, nothing beats the total sexual surrender you feel with the person you love.
Nothing.
But when that goes? Or if it's gone...perhaps you hunger for that again?
Not sure...
None of the above as I believe cheating says more about the person than the relationship. I fucking hate when people try and blame the innocent party for thier actions. If your not happy then say so, if the sex is bad then say so, if you couldn't help yourself than just admit it.
The real reasons people cheat are actuality based on more personal issues such as they fell unworthy, they are unfulfilled with thier life in general, depression, etc
I agree!
I think 'cheating' itself, has little to do with 'sex' and more to do with the.....lack of intimacy and closeness you once felt with the person you're with?
I had one male friend, who did cheat, say to me "Jo, she just didn't see me anymore. Never wanted to hug, let alone have sex. It was like a chore she couldn't wait to get over and done with and I had to stick to her schedule. I felt dead, for years."
And my heart hurt for him.
I do agree that perhaps you should end things, before you start something else, out of respect for yourself and your partner.
That being said though, if a girl or guy comes along, that makes you feel alive and desired again. Where every interraction is fun and exciting...I can see why guys like my friend, would take that opportunity and drown in it.