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Rugby88
10-04-2011, 05:33 PM
So as some of you may know my relationship of 3 1/2 years ended this week - now its been so long since my last break up that I really dont know how to react to it....of course the night it happened very upset then mad then upset...next day see her at a mates place of course weird and alot weirder considering friends were around that knew everything that was going on!

We went out with eachother on sat night for a dinner and movie - maybe to try and just spend time with eachother and talk - it was a good night but def some tension (not bad but not great lol) in the air...today comes and we needed to buy our dog food - she agreed to come over the night before when we were out - so went to buy dog food - was normal prob less tension than the night before.. but I could still tell she was fairly cold - got home I asked her if she wanted to chat we had abit of a chat she said she needed time to think about it etc....she went home I txt'd her acouple of times she replied and then I asked to call her we spoke - I explained it is pretty tough to cut off all communication etc etc - but then said I would give her space for acouple of days to think about things...

After we got off the phone I txt'd her to say Iam happy to give her space, have a good night and thanks for cooking the dog food (its a big job honestly!) our dog eats better than me lol

So do you think ive gone about this the wrong way - do u think I shouldnt of txt'd or rang after she left this morning - or not txted to say i'll give you space after the phone call....like I said its been so long since ive been in a break up and Iam a totally different person now I am not sure how to go about this...

Iam guessing its best to not contact her for acouple of days and listen to her...but should I contact or wait till she does - this would be hard!

Cheers guys!

Aaron
10-04-2011, 05:48 PM
Sit on it mate. If you keep contacting her, you might just push her away. It seems like you want to still have a friendship (if that's possible). You've taken a few steps to reinforce that. Now wait. If there's no bite, there's no bite and you'll have to accept that.

Rugby88
10-04-2011, 05:50 PM
I am not sure yet if I could have a friendship with her or not if we were to remain broken up - not for the fact that I dont like her because of it just because I wouldnt want to know what shes doing i.e going out, dating, seeing ppl etc etc

Rugby88
10-04-2011, 05:53 PM
I guess really what Iam asking is from ppls point of views from what I have done since the breakup do u think I have sealed my own fate with how I have acted - today mostly...i.e her saying she needs time me txting and calling....do u think that would be enough for her to make her final decision....

TrentZor
10-04-2011, 05:54 PM
hey joel firstly sorry to hear about your situation -

breakups are complicated and different for everybody.

I would weigh up your goods and bads in the relationship and see wether u should continue. Something must have happened for you guys to split.

If so the truth is GUYS and Girls cannot be "friends" especially if it was after a long term committed relationship. Even more so for example if one person has stopped loving the other or cheating. The animosity will still be there regardless and it will take years before you both get over it.

When in a long term relationship you never do things for yourself its mostly the other person first then you when it comes to decisions and ALSO worst of all we get COMFY..

My opinion -
I would just break ALL communication and have your space to focus on one thing... YOURSELF for say 2 weeks.. U can at least go through the gauntlet of emotions involved and do some soul searching what u want.

Rugby88
10-04-2011, 06:06 PM
Yea mate - not totally sure what it was all about (the reason for her doing it) - I think a mix of getting over it, me not be as loving as I could be and maybe just a general feeling of wanting to do diff things...

I guess for me it was abit of a surprise but maybe not totally a shock because I was sort of having the same feelings like not being as close to her, maybe becoming to comfortable in te relationship and maybe me aswell wanting to do different things - but I didnt think about breaking up with her....or maybe I was to worried what I would do if I did...

moons
10-04-2011, 08:59 PM
Breakups have always been clean cuts for me. I have enough friends, don't need another.

The Hamburgler
10-04-2011, 09:53 PM
You need to stop being sad and start being awsome!

JDizzle
11-04-2011, 02:01 AM
Mooseheads saturday night

Christian
11-04-2011, 02:07 AM
Sorry to hear mate..

Once something like this has happened it is very hard to go back and it obviously happened for a reason. It will always be there and in between you.

I dont think you can be friends either.. Im just speaking fromy m experiences.

I dont think it works.

Best bet? Move on be happy and content with your life , keep lifitng, keep loving lfie and keep living mate.

There is alot more in life to experience and enjoy and its only the beggining for you.

Take care

Rugby88
11-04-2011, 09:30 AM
Cheers mate - its crap because some of my mates room mate is fairly good friends with her - I have been friends with these guys for prob 10 yrs now and she has only known the room mate for like 6 months maybe so its abit hard to be like dont go around to there house dont hang out with her (the room mate) - but then on the other hand if this is it and we are totally over I dont want to know what shes doing or whos shes going out with etc - I know time will heal stuff but even 6 months down the line if I was sitting with my mates watching tv and she walked in with another guy and the room mate I dunno if I could handle that...

JDizzle - Tried moose on thurs lol - def not ready to be going out yet - made me feel worse I think

Christian
11-04-2011, 12:18 PM
Sounds like the room mate is a dog then...

6 months best friends sounds dodgy... Put it on him. You dont have to see her and people should respect that. I would be crushing skulls

Rugby88
11-04-2011, 12:21 PM
The room mate is a girl mate lol - believe me if it was a guy id would of killed someone lol

Christian
11-04-2011, 12:31 PM
The room mate is a girl mate lol - believe me if it was a guy id would of killed someone lol


Oh ok...

lol thought something dodgy was happening. (on i phone hard to read all the thread)

If the girl had any respect or decency as a human being should not be coming to your home with a bloke.

Rugby88
11-04-2011, 12:50 PM
Its not my place but I do hang out at my mates ALOT and I know my ex will prob be around there a fair bit seeing as tho she is fairly good friends with the room mate now!

Just really frustrating!!

Plus he got a dog together like 5 months ago and its real fucking shit because we both want him but have no idea what to do - and I dont really wanna have her like coming to see him or me having to go see him - so shit !!! ahhh

Christian
11-04-2011, 12:52 PM
Break all contact its the best way... You will see it in the end.

Now go do some deadlifts ;)

craze
11-04-2011, 01:00 PM
Its hard man really hard, best to break contact (we all say this, but its easier said then done).

Stay off the booze if you can, stay strong brother! Lift some weights, listen to some music, go for a drive, i dunno maybe rent a porno meh?

Daniel.308
11-04-2011, 01:25 PM
If all shit breaks loose just sleep with her sister to fuck her life. If she doesn't have one then have a go with the brother!

jchen
11-04-2011, 06:36 PM
Man, sorry to hear that. Can be gutting when your girl breaks up with you..

Unless you two, are the most understanding, open, or werent really in love, staying friends will never work.

it is just too hard bro, best to give it some time to settle down and think long and hard about if YOU really want to be in the relation ship. Your mind will play tricks on you making you forget all the reasons why you broke up, leaving you to think everything wil go back to the honeymoon stage if you get back together.

Either way, what ever your choice is.. take a few steps back mate, asses the situation..be honest with yourself and your girlfriend.

Rugby88
12-04-2011, 08:41 AM
Man, sorry to hear that. Can be gutting when your girl breaks up with you..

Unless you two, are the most understanding, open, or werent really in love, staying friends will never work.

it is just too hard bro, best to give it some time to settle down and think long and hard about if YOU really want to be in the relation ship. Your mind will play tricks on you making you forget all the reasons why you broke up, leaving you to think everything wil go back to the honeymoon stage if you get back together.

Either way, what ever your choice is.. take a few steps back mate, asses the situation..be honest with yourself and your girlfriend.

Very true mate - we had a huge talk last night for about 3 hours about everything and at the end of the day she just does not feel the same about me....we dont hate eachother, we arnt even really angry at eachother just upset and down about things....

I cant change her mind or say things to try and make her think she loves me so I have to respect what she says!

We set some good boundaries about not seeing eachother when we are out and her not going around to my mates place etc which I thought was pretty good of us both - seeing as though in past relationships when it has ended theres been no boundaries and shits just gone on for so much longer...

Ive been thinking long and hard and maybe we werent as in love as I thought....the relationship was never really that deep, we never really "talked" about "deep" things most stuff was always on the surface which I was always worried about....for the whole relationship...maybe we were just REALLY great friends that needed eachother at the time we got together and then we just went with it....I have no idea...I know I was very much in love with her but was it like soul mate love...(sorry to sound gay lol)...i dont know if it was....

Still hard though - I HATE change and I hate being by myself...which is something I really need to deal with.

jchen
12-04-2011, 09:05 AM
Mate, atleast you're being honest with yourself. Thats the main thing.

I guess only time will tell your true feelings towards her, be grateful for the time you did spend together. Now that that part of your life is ending, you are opening the door to new things and possibly a new woman down the track.

I think it rings true, you know the answer deep, deep down, every body has that instinctual gut feeling.. whether they trust it is a different story or not.

I think the boundaries thing is good, but stick by them mate, don't crumble, when you have had a few drinks and think some harmless sex wont hurt..like you said, it will drag on and on and on.

chin up, stay strong, life goes on mate..we have all been there, im not saying it doesn't hurt or suck but breaking up with my ex girlfriend, who i honestly thought i could have spent the rest of my life with, led me to my new girlfriend, who is truly sooo much more a real woman than my ex ever was. She treats me so differently and it is a far healthier relationship.

Doing the thing you fear most leads you to answers of the questions you have been asking all along.

JacksonAces
12-04-2011, 09:54 AM
To put it simply, the solution is the next girl. It'll get your mind off of it, which is the best thing you can do at the moment. Dwelling on it won't help, the best thing you can do is to move on to the next chapter in your life. Don't go out of your way to ignore her completely, but definitely minimize your contact with her and you'll find it much easier to move on.

Things will work themselves out ;)

Goosey
12-04-2011, 10:35 AM
I can't give you any advice Joel, only to say just be yourself.

Rugby88
12-04-2011, 11:14 AM
Cheers for the advice guys - I think now I have had real time to think and we had a proper discussion yesterday that was mature, calm and really true-full I can see now the reasons for us not being together...Iam not angry Iam just upset that such a HUGE part of my life in finishing but when one door closes you need to focus and open new doors for yourself...

Maybe we were just GREAT friends that had abit of an intimate relationship...I can tell you right now that we were never all over eachother during the relationship and like I said we rarely spoke about our feelings for eachother and nothing was ever "deep" - lets just say we couldnt spend all night chatting on the phone about how we feel and stuff like that...

I was ALWAYS worried about that in the relationship and really how much we truly loved eachother....I want her to be happy at the end of the day...and if this makes her happy then so be it.

All we need to sort out now is what will happen with the dog lol

k_21
14-04-2011, 10:18 AM
Cheers for the advice guys - I think now I have had real time to think and we had a proper discussion yesterday that was mature, calm and really true-full I can see now the reasons for us not being together...Iam not angry Iam just upset that such a HUGE part of my life in finishing but when one door closes you need to focus and open new doors for yourself...

Maybe we were just GREAT friends that had abit of an intimate relationship...I can tell you right now that we were never all over eachother during the relationship and like I said we rarely spoke about our feelings for eachother and nothing was ever "deep" - lets just say we couldnt spend all night chatting on the phone about how we feel and stuff like that...

I was ALWAYS worried about that in the relationship and really how much we truly loved eachother....I want her to be happy at the end of the day...and if this makes her happy then so be it.

All we need to sort out now is what will happen with the dog lol

Dude,

Thats tough. I 'kinda' feel ya pain... I can't remember
the last time I broke up (seeing as I'm married and all).

But here's my 10cents worth.

Stop talking about it with her! Talking maybe good for
her but us guys are built different. You've done your
serious talk blah.. blah.. blah...

Looks like you've accepted the break up; so good on you!

1. Hit the gym hard and work on yourself (this is my savior
whenever I'm down.).
2. Get out there and start dating other ppl immediately (oh and
make sure she finds our subtly..)
3. If you think you have self-esteem issues buy a few books
from amazon and read the damn thing!

Done

Devante.
P.S. Give the Dog to her unless you are DEEPLY attached to
the mutt. <- Actually Mutts are good. At least you can talk
to them and they don't judge you!

Rugby88
14-04-2011, 10:56 AM
Dude,

Thats tough. I 'kinda' feel ya pain... I can't remember
the last time I broke up (seeing as I'm married and all).

But here's my 10cents worth.

Stop talking about it with her! Talking maybe good for
her but us guys are built different. You've done your
serious talk blah.. blah.. blah...

Looks like you've accepted the break up; so good on you!

1. Hit the gym hard and work on yourself (this is my savior
whenever I'm down.).
2. Get out there and start dating other ppl immediately (oh and
make sure she finds our subtly..)
3. If you think you have self-esteem issues buy a few books
from amazon and read the damn thing!

Done

Devante.
P.S. Give the Dog to her unless you are DEEPLY attached to
the mutt. <- Actually Mutts are good. At least you can talk
to them and they don't judge you!


Cheers bro!

Pretty much everything you said Iam starting to do....it kinda feels refreshing in a way to do these things that I used to love and maybe (def) took a back seat when I was in the relationship!

I want to keep the dog but dont want to if I will be going away at the end of the yr for maybe an extend period of time - but I dont know this yet so hard to make a choice really....I was sort of thinking today that I bet she doesnt even want the dog really...shes hardly said anything about what she wants to do with him so I dunno....and like you said hes nice to have around and play with and have a chat to lol

k_21
14-04-2011, 01:24 PM
Cheers bro!

Pretty much everything you said Iam starting to do....it kinda feels refreshing in a way to do these things that I used to love and maybe (def) took a back seat when I was in the relationship!

I want to keep the dog but dont want to if I will be going away at the end of the yr for maybe an extend period of time - but I dont know this yet so hard to make a choice really....I was sort of thinking today that I bet she doesnt even want the dog really...shes hardly said anything about what she wants to do with him so I dunno....and like you said hes nice to have around and play with and have a chat to lol

Joel,

One thing I forgot to mention was that with the steps
I recommended I actually combine 1 & 3.

That is while training I listen to my self-development tapes..

Number 2 I leave up to you when you feel ready. Yes it takes
time to get over it.

Nuff said.

Devante.
P.S. If your inner-child is wanting a virtual hug or something PM me :p.

Rugby88
15-04-2011, 10:04 AM
Cheers bro - trying to just do shit loads of training (prob over-training lol), spend time with mates - and spend time with mates who have been in the same situation so I can get advice off them! and just try as much as possible to have a positive outlook on what will happen.

Really the only prob is - is my feeling towards her being with other guys - but I know my past experience that 1. this will pass and normally pass as soon as you hook up with someone else and 2. its just natural to think like that if someone has been ur gf for an extend period of time...even if you did really love them or maybe not...

eje
15-04-2011, 10:19 AM
You are doing great Joel...sounds like you are starting to get on top of it a little...

k_21
15-04-2011, 10:23 AM
Cheers bro - trying to just do shit loads of training (prob over-training lol), spend time with mates - and spend time with mates who have been in the same situation so I can get advice off them! and just try as much as possible to have a positive outlook on what will happen.

Really the only prob is - is my feeling towards her being with other guys - but I know my past experience that 1. this will pass and normally pass as soon as you hook up with someone else and 2. its just natural to think like that if someone has been ur gf for an extend period of time...even if you did really love them or maybe not...

Hang on...

You didn't take me up on my 'virtual hug'.. DOH.

My feelings are hurt now. I better go call my mommy or
something.....

Devante.

Rugby88
15-04-2011, 10:24 AM
You are doing great Joel...sounds like you are starting to get on top of it a little...

Thanks eje - I guess it more that she has been a HUGE part of my life and best mate for the last 3 1/2 years...so its abit of a change to say the least....but honestly Iam feeling ok...she msg me last night and asked if I was going out because we told eachother just to say when we are going out for awhile so we dont see eachother out...and if we have had a few drinks words may be said that are not ment...honestly I think this has been a real mature break-up...prob the 1st one I have ever had LOL....in the past I would of been straight down to the city with the boys in the chance i'll see her and then get all depressed when I do LOL....

But just stayed home - started watching a new TV show and just chilled out....was kinda nice lol

eje
15-04-2011, 10:32 AM
Thanks eje - I guess it more that she has been a HUGE part of my life and best mate for the last 3 1/2 years...so its abit of a change to say the least....but honestly Iam feeling ok...she msg me last night and asked if I was going out because we told eachother just to say when we are going out for awhile so we dont see eachother out...and if we have had a few drinks words may be said that are not ment...honestly I think this has been a real mature break-up...prob the 1st one I have ever had LOL....in the past I would of been straight down to the city with the boys in the chance i'll see her and then get all depressed when I do LOL....

But just stayed home - started watching a new TV show and just chilled out....was kinda nice lol

Good man...it will get easier like it already has a bit, you seem to know that though...
I hope while you were watching TV you devoured something deliciously bad for you....like cadbury choc- pineapple, mint slice biscuits etc etc...all very good for mending broken hearts, just don't eat too many or you might have a hard time finding a new girl :D

Rugby88
15-04-2011, 10:54 AM
Good man...it will get easier like it already has a bit, you seem to know that though...
I hope while you were watching TV you devoured something deliciously bad for you....like cadbury choc- pineapple, mint slice biscuits etc etc...all very good for mending broken hearts, just don't eat too many or you might have a hard time finding a new girl :D

I had a chicken salad lol

No junk for me now...gotta get back in the game :p

Daniel.308
15-04-2011, 11:26 AM
This will help you realise there are bigger and better things out there ....

http://ausbb.com/general-topic/12357-nsfw-ausbb-female-grading-system-warning-sexist-females-51.html

Rugby88
15-04-2011, 12:25 PM
lol yea mate

N-J-T
15-04-2011, 12:32 PM
First of all i know that my relationship probably doesn't compare to yours because im a lot younger but just over a year ago i started seeing someone, we were with each other for 10 months and were very close but for confusing reasons i had to break it off. We did not see each other for about a month (over the school holidays). When School came back we started talking again and now we are close friends and both happy that way. Even know we can't be together and i do not love her like i used to, I still really enjoy talking to her and being friends with her.
Good luck with things mate.

Rugby88
15-04-2011, 01:00 PM
First of all i know that my relationship probably doesn't compare to yours because im a lot younger but just over a year ago i started seeing someone, we were with each other for 10 months and were very close but for confusing reasons i had to break it off. We did not see each other for about a month (over the school holidays). When School came back we started talking again and now we are close friends and both happy that way. Even know we can't be together and i do not love her like i used to, I still really enjoy talking to her and being friends with her.
Good luck with things mate.

Yea I dunno if me and her will/could be friends down the line....u know atm I want her in my life because I think shes been in my life for so long...but I dunno I guess time will tell what happens.

The weird thing is Iam not angry at her like I have been at gf's in the past that have broken up with me....its sorta a weird feeling ...like yes we have ended the relationship but nothing has changed really...i dunno maybe thats just a reflection on how the relationship was going - we were boyfriend and girlfriend but were just with eachother ...there was nothing really there but a friendship....I have no idea to be honest...but I do feel ALOT diff in this breakup than I have in anyother breakup...maybe iam just more mature or maybe even though Iam cut I know deep down this is the best thing for both of us.

Rugby88
18-04-2011, 05:05 PM
Nearly 2 weeks gone and I think I feel worse lol.....i dunno hopefully i'll start to feel normal again soon.

Rugby88
05-05-2011, 10:10 PM
Ok abit of an update - found out my gf had been cheating on me for prob the whole time we were together lol

TrentZor
06-05-2011, 04:25 AM
Ok abit of an update - found out my gf had been cheating on me for prob the whole time we were together lol

If that doesn't make up your mind nothing will!@

Daniel.308
06-05-2011, 05:15 AM
Shit thats gotta hurt...

Just so you know bro nice guys get no where... Just root everything you get your hands on, root anything that is related to her, just fuck her life.

My thoughts.

Rugby88
06-05-2011, 10:45 AM
Sort of always thought she was sneaky because she did something very very wrong at a young age before we met...and that followed through into the relationship abit and always put doubts in my mind about what sort of person she was and what she could possibly do....prob alot MORE than I know....and there was alot of hiding of different things like secret email addy....very active on weird dating sites....

Very weird shit....now a new dude has come into the pic and it doesnt look like its something new....I dunno I can never be 100% sure but I know things were abit weird now looking back without the blind folds of love on :P

candyflip
06-05-2011, 11:34 AM
Keep busy my friend.

Active mind, active body, downtime for just you.... the weeks (and hurt) will fly by.

Rugby88
06-05-2011, 12:34 PM
Keep busy my friend.

Active mind, active body, downtime for just you.... the weeks (and hurt) will fly by.

Thats it! believe me now I feel alot better off without her....after what I have heard and found out.

jamesyboi
07-05-2011, 02:28 PM
Keep busy my friend.

Active mind, active body, downtime for just you.... the weeks (and hurt) will fly by.


What this guy said.

Keep busy

Work
Workout harder
See friends and family more often
Spend more time doing hobbies
Go out with some other chicks

jchen
07-05-2011, 08:11 PM
Fuck that sucks dude.

but..

at least you know now and weren't still the fool being played.

Rugby88
09-05-2011, 09:45 AM
Fuck that sucks dude.

but..

at least you know now and weren't still the fool being played.


Thats it dude - kinda sucks coz u have feelings for that person but at the end of the day they are fucking you around.

Newest thing is she had a much older bf before we started going out and its one dude I know she shouldnt of been around and she knew it....and she has been in contact with him again....lol....and she says he just randomly contacted her....mmmm lolol

Rugby88
16-05-2011, 11:11 AM
Abit of an update :P

Everything is done - I gave her the dog - she wasnt going to leave it alone and wanted to see him on the weekends and stuff like that - just wasnt going to work if we wanted to move on with things! Will be getting her to pay me out fully though - price of dog/desexing etc.

Shes seeing someone else - which is fine...cant control that. Iam seeing a few ppl at the moment...one iam keen on but has also just broken up with her BF so is in abit of a weird place...gotta play it cool :P

Def getting over it - saw her sat coz we needed to go to the last vet visit....and I can def do better lol

jchen
16-05-2011, 06:09 PM
She seemed to have moved on quickly dude.

I guess it was for the better.

It is funny when you look back at girls like that, at first you think they are the shit, see them once you've broken up and the fog has cleared.. you know you can do better.

All good though mate, keep your self busy, it ended for a reason..people often start thinking back about past relationships and wondering what could have been and shit.. they forget why it ended in the first place though.

Just take it slow man, enjoy being single, mingle with every bitch you can, because you ARE allowed to now.. enjoy the freedom, fuck some girl then kick her out in the morning.

Don't forget that cash either..

Rugby88
17-05-2011, 10:09 AM
She seemed to have moved on quickly dude.

I guess it was for the better.

It is funny when you look back at girls like that, at first you think they are the shit, see them once you've broken up and the fog has cleared.. you know you can do better.

All good though mate, keep your self busy, it ended for a reason..people often start thinking back about past relationships and wondering what could have been and shit.. they forget why it ended in the first place though.

Just take it slow man, enjoy being single, mingle with every bitch you can, because you ARE allowed to now.. enjoy the freedom, fuck some girl then kick her out in the morning.

Don't forget that cash either..

Yea mate - shes the sorta person that cant stand to be alone...so not surprising lol...prob why we stayed together so long.

Very true mate - its funny coz I havnt really looked back and said I wish this worked, or wish I did this and that....nearly as soon as we broke up I could see the person she really was...and Iam happy to be out of it now and not when we have bought a house, got married, had kids etc.

Shes going to make it difficult to get this money - msg'd her last night and it will be like drawing blood from a stone...but im not going to let up on this...its $515 bucks...its not just a few dollars.

jchen
17-05-2011, 11:47 AM
yeah man, dont let up. money is money

Shaneo
21-05-2011, 10:00 PM
Sorry to hear about the drama's you have had the $515 i personaly would write it off just so i didnt have to hear from her again.
My mate just went through a messy divorce he's kept himself busy so he doesnt get down plenty of lifting has helped and his divorce present a nissan 370z
good luck
cheers shane

Rugby88
27-05-2011, 10:27 AM
Sorry to hear about the drama's you have had the $515 i personaly would write it off just so i didnt have to hear from her again.
My mate just went through a messy divorce he's kept himself busy so he doesnt get down plenty of lifting has helped and his divorce present a nissan 370z
good luck
cheers shane

Hey mate - sorry just saw this post.

Iam going to give myself another week and think if I even wanna contact her in regards to the money....I was going to get a date off her yesterday but honestly did not want to msg her lol.

Iam over the whole thing now and glad we arnt together....the relationship was going nowhere and we only stayed together coz we wanted someone I think....shes already with another bloke which I think is just sad as hell....give yaself time to have fun and experience things...but like alot of ppl she needs someone there....ive had more fun in the last 6 weeks than I have in 3 yrs....iam really loving single life atm and kinda pissed off I didnt do anything about it sooner!!!!!

dustyae86
31-05-2011, 08:58 PM
Good on you mate, my missus broke it off with me on sunday jsut been adn it sure sucks, but I guess at teh end of the day, life rolls on.
For soem reason everytime I have finished up wiht a relationship I have changed soemthing about myself, last time I put on 15kg, then in this relationship I lost weight cause I wasn't eating properly and stuff, so now back into it. Then you feel good when you see them and they realise what they are missing ;)
But yeh mine happened cause she jsut wanted to do her own thing, pretty uch jumped into a realtionship not long after she broke up with her ex. So probably wasn't too good in that sense. But ah well you get that, sowly getting over it, jsut have to start training hard again

dustyae86
31-05-2011, 09:18 PM
also thought I would ask here cause it might get more exposure, but, how do you handle eating, seems whenver I eat soemthing I start feeling sick :(

Rugby88
01-06-2011, 10:23 AM
also thought I would ask here cause it might get more exposure, but, how do you handle eating, seems whenver I eat soemthing I start feeling sick :(

Do you mean you cant eat coz your upset about the break up? or u just feel sick in general....

dustyae86
01-06-2011, 08:15 PM
yeh upset about the break up, like will have a few mouthfuls then feel sick so can't eat anymore, it is slowly going away I think so I guess I will jsut have to give it time unfortunately

Rugby88
02-06-2011, 10:48 AM
yeh upset about the break up, like will have a few mouthfuls then feel sick so can't eat anymore, it is slowly going away I think so I guess I will jsut have to give it time unfortunately

I didnt eat much for the 1st week man....to much going through your head atm...give it time and u'll wanna smash the diet soon.

jamesyboi
15-05-2012, 12:20 PM
It is my belief that most relationship problems can be solved with either

1. a low carb protein shake
2. a good workout at the gym

Darkoz
15-05-2012, 09:38 PM
I always thought a good root did the trick

Goosey
15-05-2012, 10:41 PM
i always thought a good root did the trick

lol

D1cko
16-05-2012, 11:24 AM
I always thought a good root did the trick

That's the plan :)
I'll give it a month or so before I get back in the game...

Bella
16-05-2012, 11:26 AM
That's the plan :)
I'll give it a month or so before I get back in the game...

YAY!

I mean 'Yay!' to the positivity in that statement....not the root part! :cool:

Although you know, Bella is happy for you too! lolol

bitchbejealous/10

:D