I can't pretend to give you sage advice in a forum post that would make it all OK, but I can say, there's some good advice in this video that you might use.
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Keep talking to those you love, ignore everyone else.
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.
Strong video candyflip. I recognise that guys voice. Who is it?
Fascinating thread.
This has nothing to do with Boob jobs, height,
color, or short fingers!!!
We all have insecurities of various kinds (Yup
even me). The question is when those insecurities
overflow to drastically alter your life. case in point
getting a boob-job, plastic surgery, buying a BMW,
wanting to live in Sth Yarra etc etc to make yourself
feel better b/c you are not content with yourself 'inside'.
But guess what? they are fleeting. As soon as you get
the BMW or the boob-job you'll find something else to feel bad about your-self.
Do some 'personal change work' for your soul. Below
is my recommendations if anyone's interested.
Psycho Cybernetics - by Maxwell Maltz
Devante.
Yes I've read it and 100 other titles...
No use comparing yourselves to others. It's hard not to sometimes. With the advent of Facebook (as already mentioned) it's much easier to peer into others' lives.
Some get engaged and do the old boring deferred life plan. Slave, save, retire. That's their choice, and so long as they're happy. Great. Others travel, have one night stands and fill their lives with as many experiences as they can. Then come back to reality in their 30's with not a dime to their name. But they'd not trade it for anything, they're content. We're all wired and shaped by our experiences in life which really determine the path we take.
I've had friends tell me 'wish I looked like you'. I say 'wish I was in cirque du soleil like you, or could draw, or have been to 21 countries like you' etc etc. Where does it end? If you continually look at what you don't have, or what you're not then damn you'll struggle to be happy.
If there are changes you can make to yourself that will boost confidence, then go for it. I was regretful 2 years ago that I had not picked up an instrument. 2 years on i'm pretty decent at playing guitar, and much happier with myself for doing so. If you wish you could do this, and do that - well hey, do it. The only person stopping you from doing these things is you. Go travel, go learn something new. Always remember that the person you wish you could be like, is probably also thinking of what they lack and not what they already have.
With regards to boob jobs, I have heavily changed my opinion on them (not just because boobs are delicious).
Of course, you need to be innately happy - but some things can really hurt ones confidence and self esteem. For me, a boob job on a girl who is basically breastless is perfectly OK if it means a boost in self esteem. It is similar to a man with gynecomastia. Sure he should be happy with himself, but in either of these situations - going to the beach, wearing clothes and just feeling good about yourself is quite difficult if you're a female with little boob (or a man WITH boob!).
It's sad when you see a girl almost fully clothed at the beach because she was teased about having mosquito bites through her late teens and early 20's.
But it's pleasing to see them 6 months on being able to wear a bikini and finally enjoy jumping in the water and laying on the beach without feeling the anxiety she previously had.
The above is a true story, and can be extrapolated to any situation. So i've completely changed my mind on the boob job thing. I guess previously I just thought boob jobs were simply an act of vanity (and in some cases, I bet they are). In some circumstances, however, it's the difference between actually feeling OK with yourself, breaking down personal barriers and mending psychological scars.
/Tangent
Edit: And this;
Fascinating thread.
This has nothing to do with Boob jobs, height,
color, or short fingers!!!
We all have insecurities of various kinds (Yup
even me). The question is when those insecurities
overflow to drastically alter your life. case in point
getting a boob-job, plastic surgery, buying a BMW,
wanting to live in Sth Yarra etc etc to make yourself
feel better b/c you are not content with yourself 'inside'.
But guess what? they are fleeting. As soon as you get
the BMW or the boob-job you'll find something else to feel bad about your-self.
Do some 'personal change work' for your soul. Below
is my recommendations if anyone's interested.
Psycho Cybernetics - by Maxwell Maltz
Devante.
Yes I've read it and 100 other titles...
What is stopping from doing the things you want mocha? Ir going overseas?
Baz Luhrmann - Aussie director.
Awesome video.
this sounds like when guys say, "ill feel more cofident with bigger muscles." I can honestly say that with bigger muscles, my confidence has stayed the same
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