M husband wants to be motivated but last time we trained together he turned into a hindrance! Didn't listen to my instructions and didnt pick up a bar unless I told him to.....
Workout alone forever Crew! Lol
^ that certainly would be de-moralising for the man
You can't 'motivate' anyone. That has to come from them. If you 'suggest' fitness routines, she'll likely take it as a subliminal message that you don't think she's good enough for you.
Also remember, fitness is one thing. Bodybuilding, strength training, crossfit, zumba, pilates, yoga...are all just ways to 'workout' to get you to your desired outcome. Whatever that may be.
Why don't YOU try going on her walks with her? Start by giving, rather than having any level of expectation.
Everybody trains or 'wants' to train for a different outcome. Hers may be very different to yours, therefore working out together might be rather pointless?
Once you've been on a few walks together, invite her to the gym, organise a free pass for her & get excited about showing her those 2.5kg db's that have her name on them. lol
Show her youtube vids on female training & remain excited about the walks with her in between your own training, to show her that you're focused on cardiovascular fitness as well as the creation of muscle & the building of strength.
Encourage her.
Get excited about her achievements. No matter how small.
You can't motivate her, but you can always influence people with positivity.
And remain open minded & flexible about 'workout routines' - no one way, is right. It depends entirely on your goals.
I swim/ride/walk/box/lift weights/do yoga as well as a miriad of different HIIT routines. I aim for good cardio fitness, increase lbm, get stronger, leaner & faster.
But thats me. Maybe her only aim is to sustain cardiovascular fitness? By walking for 30 minutes 3 x a week, shes doing just that.
When I was overweight, you couldn't have paid me, to join a gym or move my fat ass. I was ashamed, embarrassed & terrified. Walking is where I started & I still walk, just to walk. Its good for you
Its up to YOU to begin where she has started. Walk. Make it brisk, invigorating & get excited about it.
Excitement & positivity is infectious & influential.
I have every muscle bound man I know doing yoga. It was no mean feat! Influence with enthusiasm & give them opportunity to see the benefits for themselves (i.e. get her a free gym pass, you showing her a few simple bro curls or seated calf raises) encourage her, be happy that she's there. Be patient & be positive.
If its for her, she'll at least be curious to continue. If its not? She'll still walk.
No one loses
Can you stop with the epic long posts. It's a message board not a blog, no one comes here to read a novel by Bella.
Hmm stop for who? You? No.
I posted a response to the OP, who posed a question on a forum, which I am a member of & have every right to participate in.
Unless & until Admin tells me there's a cap on my posts, my keystrokes, or the amount of characters I'm allowed to use per post, then I will respond in the way & manner I choose to.
You shouldn't concern yourself with it so much Fluff. Like any other post on these boards, you choose to read it, or not to read it, the outcome is dependent on you.
Just saying most people will scroll past that shit cause it is to long, you could make your point in 3 or 4 lines no problem.
Ignore mode engaged.
Constantly check out fit chicks when you're with her. That should do the trick (half serious).
Cliffs on bellas post - If she doesn't want to lift weights thats fine, lifting weights isn't really popular with woman.
If your wife wanted you to do knitting or whatever the fuck woman do, you probably wouldn't do it. Unless your gay. And then your also dishonest because you married a woman while being gay.
Cliffs of my post - Let her follow her interests/hobbies, you follow your interests/hobbies.
If she is not interested it does not matter what you do, she will not do it full stop.
My missus refuses to exercise no matter what, she will come up with the most random excuses to not do it, as soon as the time to exercise comes around she will start washing up, vacuuming, making beds, dusting, pretend to be sick, have a head ache, start cleaning the kids rooms, sorting out socks, do ironing etc etc you name it and she will come up with it.
It annoys the crap out of me but nothing I can do, we have had countless arguments about this, and I have a feeling if it continues it might just be our (her) undoing in the next few years.
So I suggest if it annoys you as much as it annoys me move on now and get a partner that shares your interests.
i agree with the guys who check out fit chicks, as in jealousy is a big motivator
jealousy is a great foundation for a relationship that will last about 3 weeks...lol.
mix in a bit of spite, anger, revenge and random and mix into a cake. Will leave you with cramps in the guts and a severe case of the shits....
If your girlfriend/wife starts working out it's the beginning of the end
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