I'm sure everyone will have an opinion, but my take is this:
The human body works in cycles, some days you feel weaker, stronger, more energetic and less emotional than others. The body isn't constant and as such I don't believe your diet should be constant. I like to look at my caloric/alcoholic/macros intake over a 1 week period.
I eat carbs in cycles, drink alcohol in cycles - but one thing that has to remain constant is my commitment to exercise (lifting) and constantly progressing in my exercise.
But I'm only 89kgs, just a few kgs off my target weight.
Most chubbies don't get the fact that they have the ability to manipulate foods/diet to get the desired result. They also don't understand that to make the initial change they need to make massive changes in their life.
I've got family and friends who are not just obese, but grossly obese. One common denominator is the fact that they live in denial. When I hear a chubby saying they want to "eat in moderation" I hear someone saying "I couldn't give a fuck if I die early and I want to lose weight as long as I can still eat anything I want".
One of my dearest friends in life is a 44 year old woman who would weigh around 160/170kgs. At dinner the other day she commented that the reflux she has been having lately is "genetic". lol, its cause of all the fat pushing on her stomach/digestive system.
It's sad kaz that the lady copped shit, but maybe she needed to. "Moderation of foods" is not only ok, but the best way to get desired results.
The problem with chubbies is that they don't have the emotional and mental strength to eat in moderation because they have habitually overeaten for years to get in their current state.