That's the first sign of bad things to come. "We hardly ever fought", could be interpreted as "we hardly knew each other" in my book.We hardly ever fought. She and I just had a great connection.
So what's the big deal here? You're not Mr. Perfect, and the sooner this woman realises that Mr. Perfects do not exist the better it would be for her (her loss not yours here). You found an aspect to your personality that you recognise as needing some improvement and you've acknowledge that, which is a journey half way travelled already. Many don't even acknowledge they have an issue, you're not one of those. Pat yourself on the back and feel great about doing so.Unfortunately, however, I started a new job in emergency services last year and the five month training was brutal. I was stressed and anxious most of the time. She noticed this and just reasoned to herself that I was just being this way because it was actually stressful and it would come to an end when I started the job for real. It didnt. She quickly worked out that I was anxiety ridden, stressed and generally on a 'downer' most of the time.
And since when does similarities between the parties guaranteed a long and successful relationship? Again, this is her problem and not yours, she's the one being a half empty glass, taking advantage of your anxiety to build up her own low self-esteem...don't fall for it.When I came home from work in September/October 2015 she told me that she didnt think it was going to work between us because she and I are too different.
She can go and jump off a bridge with that type of chauvinistic attitude. Just as well she broke it off, she simply doesn't deserve you (and she knows it). She was simply feeding off of your pain to feed her own smashed ego. A 40 year old man does not get told that he's going to be taught a lesson by a woman. Find yourself someone who loves you and appreciates you for who you are, and someone who can prove their love to you by being patient and supportive when you're feeling down, as we all feel down and need some sort of support from a loved one at some stage in our relationship. This woman sounds/seems way too immature for my liking. Has she ever had children?When I got home she said she was breaking up with me because it was the only way I would ever learn.
If the issue has been acknowledged by you and you're willing to work on it for the better, what part is she playing to prove her "loving commitment" to you? That's right..., a big fat zero! Which again tells me that you're better off without her.It may seem sudden but in reality this has been an issue for months. I just didnt fix it.
Wrong, you... better mean everything to you first (if you do not have kids yet), because you certainly do not want to be with someone who believes that roses come perfect without their thorns! It seems to me that she belongs to a group who enjoys the beauty and the fragrance of a majestic rose, yet shy away from its thorn, as if that has ever made a glorious rose complete. It never has and it never will.I regret this so much because I feel like (for now) I've lost the love of my life. She means everything to me.
Yes I can clearly see that, so why aren't you still together then? Simple, because in reality it is not like you are seeing it (yet describing it). Let me give you a piece of advice if I may. A relationship..., make that a solid relationship, is built upon pillars of Love Respect Trust. Take one of those pillars away and your whole dream would initially become shaky (instead of solid), and if not attended to, would eventually fall down, like it should. In the trunk of Love, there are deep roots, and if that love is true love, then (and only then) you would see branches spring out carrying with them healthy green leaves; the leaves of patience, the leaves of encouragement, the leaves of appreciation, the leaves of .....In terms of screaming and really ugly behaviour. Couldn't be more different here. Lots of love and mutual respect.
That's the first sign of bad things to come. "We hardly ever fought", could be interpreted as "we hardly knew each other" in my book.
So what's the big deal here? You're not Mr. Perfect, and the sooner this woman realises that Mr. Perfects do not exist the better it would be for her (her loss not yours here). You found an aspect to your personality that you recognise as needing some improvement and you've acknowledge that, which is a journey half way travelled already. Many don't even acknowledge they have an issue, you're not one of those. Pat yourself on the back and feel great about doing so.
And since when does similarities between the parties guaranteed a long and successful relationship? Again, this is her problem and not yours, she's the one being a half empty glass, taking advantage of your anxiety to build up her own low self-esteem...don't fall for it.
She can go and jump off a bridge with that type of chauvinistic attitude. Just as well she broke it off, she simply doesn't deserve you (and she knows it). She was simply feeding off of your pain to feed her own smashed ego. A 40 year old man does not get told that he's going to be taught a lesson by a woman. Find yourself someone who loves you and appreciates you for who you are, and someone who can prove their love to you by being patient and supportive when you're feeling down, as we all feel down and need some sort of support from a loved one at some stage in our relationship. This woman sounds/seems way too immature for my liking. Has she ever had children?
If the issue has been acknowledged by you and you're willing to work on it for the better, what part is she playing to prove her "loving commitment" to you? That's right..., a big fat zero! Which again tells me that you're better off without her.
Wrong, you... better mean everything to you first (if you do not have kids yet), because you certainly do not want to be with someone who believes that roses come perfect without their thorns! It seems to me that she belongs to a group who enjoys the beauty and the fragrance of a majestic rose, yet shy away from its thorn, as if that has ever made a glorious rose complete. It never has and it never will.
Yes I can clearly see that, so why aren't you still together then? Simple, because in reality it is not like you are seeing it (yet describing it). Let me give you a piece of advice if I may. A relationship..., make that a solid relationship, is built upon pillars of Love Respect Trust. Take one of those pillars away and your whole dream would initially become shaky (instead of solid), and if not attended to, would eventually fall down, like it should. In the trunk of Love, there are deep roots, and if that love is true love, then (and only then) you would see branches spring out carrying with them healthy green leaves; the leaves of patience, the leaves of encouragement, the leaves of appreciation, the leaves of .....
You bumped your own thread 4 or so hours after starting it? What do you want us to say mate? Are you looking for sympathy or someone to say it's all going to be ok? You're on a bodybuilding forum, not a stay at home mum's forum.... Move on.
I'm not here to sugar coat things. We told him 12-18 months ago not to dive in to another relationship. He had all sorts of trust issues about it from the beginning. TBH, I'm surprised it even lasted this long. Sounds to me like they'd make a good pair of friends but aren't cut out to be partnerswell its obviously one of the few places he can turn to for help, from people who have similar interests to his own. bit harsh mate.
why are you being a miserable, stressed out bitch if you've got the job you always wanted, and had the girl of your dreams???
That's the first sign of bad things to come. "We hardly ever fought", could be interpreted as "we hardly knew each other" in my book.
So what's the big deal here? You're not Mr. Perfect, and the sooner this woman realises that Mr. Perfects do not exist the better it would be for her (her loss not yours here). You found an aspect to your personality that you recognise as needing some improvement and you've acknowledge that, which is a journey half way travelled already. Many don't even acknowledge they have an issue, you're not one of those. Pat yourself on the back and feel great about doing so.
And since when does similarities between the parties guaranteed a long and successful relationship? Again, this is her problem and not yours, she's the one being a half empty glass, taking advantage of your anxiety to build up her own low self-esteem...don't fall for it.
She can go and jump off a bridge with that type of chauvinistic attitude. Just as well she broke it off, she simply doesn't deserve you (and she knows it). She was simply feeding off of your pain to feed her own smashed ego. A 40 year old man does not get told that he's going to be taught a lesson by a woman. Find yourself someone who loves you and appreciates you for who you are, and someone who can prove their love to you by being patient and supportive when you're feeling down, as we all feel down and need some sort of support from a loved one at some stage in our relationship. This woman sounds/seems way too immature for my liking. Has she ever had children?
If the issue has been acknowledged by you and you're willing to work on it for the better, what part is she playing to prove her "loving commitment" to you? That's right..., a big fat zero! Which again tells me that you're better off without her.
Wrong, you... better mean everything to you first (if you do not have kids yet), because you certainly do not want to be with someone who believes that roses come perfect without their thorns! It seems to me that she belongs to a group who enjoys the beauty and the fragrance of a majestic rose, yet shy away from its thorn, as if that has ever made a glorious rose complete. It never has and it never will.
Yes I can clearly see that, so why aren't you still together then? Simple, because in reality it is not like you are seeing it (yet describing it). Let me give you a piece of advice if I may. A relationship..., make that a solid relationship, is built upon pillars of Love Respect Trust. Take one of those pillars away and your whole dream would initially become shaky (instead of solid), and if not attended to, would eventually fall down, like it should. In the trunk of Love, there are deep roots, and if that love is true love, then (and only then) you would see branches spring out carrying with them healthy green leaves; the leaves of patience, the leaves of encouragement, the leaves of appreciation, the leaves of .....