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kindred
09-05-2011, 08:56 AM
If your in a relationship with someone with a child from a previous relationship how do you deal with the child if they are a total nut job. If it was my child id feel much more comfortable but as it is I dont want to interfere. Any advice?

The Hulk
09-05-2011, 09:51 AM
Easy answer.
Don't get yourself involved in the first place.
Or, get out if you're already in.

Why do you always attract these situations Dreds?

TLS
09-05-2011, 10:07 AM
You need to be someone who can be respected. You need to be able to give the child respect.

kindred
09-05-2011, 10:19 AM
Easy answer.
Don't get yourself involved in the first place.
Or, get out if you're already in.

Why do you always attract these situations Dreds?

I often ask myself the same questions.

jamesyboi
10-05-2011, 07:50 AM
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Ricko
10-05-2011, 10:26 AM
Been there, done that.... It can be one very messed up situation. Depending on the how the relationship still stands between the father and the girl you are seeing. Im very happy I got out of that situation. I absolutely HAD to finish the relationship, it was mind games after mind games between the mother and the child. I felt constantly played. I didnt have an issue with the child, it was more so the tangle of emotions and confusion that surrounded the girl I was involved with and the father of their child. In the end I relised I was only 25 (at the time) and that life was too short to get so involved with something like this and to deal with a child of this age that would act out more and more.

Also, what is the kid doing?

jeltzz
10-05-2011, 12:35 PM
whatever you do Kindred, you need to work that out with the girl first. 'cause if you're committed to the girl at all, then essentially you're playing dad to the kid, and so you need the girl to be okay with you acting with respect and authority. that's my take.

kindred
10-05-2011, 12:56 PM
The kid just gets heaps angry and no matter what anyone does freaks out and gets violent. runs off and crys for ages. Sounds normal but when it happens no matter what anyone does the kid stays all freaked out hardcore. People can yell not yell reason seriously no matter what the kids just gets ANGRY.

The father sees her once every second weekend other than that has no contact. The mother cant stand him she was the one that left. Shes been out of that relationship for 4 or 5 years now and has had a few boyfriends in that time. Not a crazy amount just a normal amount i guess three i think. I am number 4 :P

The Hulk
10-05-2011, 02:35 PM
Maybe all these new strange men coming and going all the time scare and confuse the poor girl.

jeltzz
10-05-2011, 02:52 PM
pretty sure there are no quick fixes for that situation. sounds like the kid needs stability and some decent care.

sookie
10-05-2011, 08:22 PM
sounds like the kid needs a hug

walt
10-05-2011, 08:37 PM
tell him if he mis behaves again hes going into the rape dungeon

Figjam Brah
10-05-2011, 10:44 PM
Lawl, at what Sookie and LMD said....

Grippy
28-05-2011, 06:34 PM
The kid just gets heaps angry and no matter what anyone does freaks out and gets violent. runs off and crys for ages. Sounds normal but when it happens no matter what anyone does the kid stays all freaked out hardcore. People can yell not yell reason seriously no matter what the kids just gets ANGRY.

The father sees her once every second weekend other than that has no contact. The mother cant stand him she was the one that left. Shes been out of that relationship for 4 or 5 years now and has had a few boyfriends in that time. Not a crazy amount just a normal amount i guess three i think. I am number 4 :P

How old is this kid mate? The poor kid is probably confused, happy home gets broken apart and is stuck with mum and has had to deal with at least 3 other blokes hanging around and now you so who really knows how many other blokes have been around since the breakup. Kid is wondering what the fuck happened and how long is this shit going to last with the bloke thats on the scene now. Poor kid probably hears her bagging the dad all the time, yet still has a sense of loyalty towards the dad, yet cant talk to the mum about him because she despises him.

callan
28-05-2011, 10:16 PM
sounds like your on the money there grippy.