There's a girl in my law course who's socially inept (lets call her Emily). I'd say she's mildly autistic because she cant pick up neither verbal or non verbal queues and doesn't cope when attention isn't on her.
Most people in the course are jock types - party animals with no time for those who don't fit the mold. Because of this she latches onto my group, as a few of the girls have acted as a mother hen for her in the past and they won't run off when shes around. However, through constant and often hurtful lies, stalking my best friend and temper tantrums when conversation doesn't revolve around her nobody in the group actually likes her, but everyone seems to tolerate her except me.
Emily can't stand me because a while ago when I caught her 'friend' (another girl in the course) who she idolizes ditching her outside a nightclub I told the friend off. Emily took the friends side, and has since badgered me about 'what a horrible person' I am.
Things cumulated last night at a law party, when a group member had a spat with her boyfriend. My best friend and I talked about it later on, and as this conversation didnt involve her emily started attacking us that 'it was none of our business'. She said that I probably caused it because 'I'm always upsetting you, it's no wonder nobody likes you' and that I'm 'a sick person' before bringing up the incident with her friend again. This really cut into me, and when she talked over me as i tried to defend myself I became physically angry.
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I've spoke to my friends since. They've agreed that she was out of line but aren't willing to push her off nor call her out (because they know it'll be pointless).
I'd say I hate her. I hate that she gets away with these things, that I get attacked when others in the course openly wont give her the time of day and that I'm beginning to like the fact that she's miserable and lonely, which is worrying in itself.
Can anyone give me some coping strategies with a little more depth than 'just ignore her'? if you have opinions or similar experiences feel free to share them.
thanks.
Most people in the course are jock types - party animals with no time for those who don't fit the mold. Because of this she latches onto my group, as a few of the girls have acted as a mother hen for her in the past and they won't run off when shes around. However, through constant and often hurtful lies, stalking my best friend and temper tantrums when conversation doesn't revolve around her nobody in the group actually likes her, but everyone seems to tolerate her except me.
Emily can't stand me because a while ago when I caught her 'friend' (another girl in the course) who she idolizes ditching her outside a nightclub I told the friend off. Emily took the friends side, and has since badgered me about 'what a horrible person' I am.
Things cumulated last night at a law party, when a group member had a spat with her boyfriend. My best friend and I talked about it later on, and as this conversation didnt involve her emily started attacking us that 'it was none of our business'. She said that I probably caused it because 'I'm always upsetting you, it's no wonder nobody likes you' and that I'm 'a sick person' before bringing up the incident with her friend again. This really cut into me, and when she talked over me as i tried to defend myself I became physically angry.
***
I've spoke to my friends since. They've agreed that she was out of line but aren't willing to push her off nor call her out (because they know it'll be pointless).
I'd say I hate her. I hate that she gets away with these things, that I get attacked when others in the course openly wont give her the time of day and that I'm beginning to like the fact that she's miserable and lonely, which is worrying in itself.
Can anyone give me some coping strategies with a little more depth than 'just ignore her'? if you have opinions or similar experiences feel free to share them.
thanks.
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